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Makeup-Free Date #2

Hello 🌸

Just a follow-up from yesterday’s post, if you haven’t read it, it’s here.

It was now my second date with this guy, and I found it really difficult to go makeup-free. This was a nice restaurant in a higher-end area, which made me feel pressured to wear makeup. I resisted the urge, got super dressed up and decided that was way more than enough.

When he confirmed that we were still on, he sent a message that read: “best bring your A-game, girl.” Now, this was really normal for our interactions- sarcastic, playful, fake-insulting. But my panicked mind that was already struggling with the insecurity of looking desirable without makeup wondered: “is he telling me to make sure I look good?”

Good news: he wasn’t.

But it took me forever to calm myself down and decide that it meant nothing of the sort. I stuck to my decision, wrapped my afro in a new scarf, got DRESSED TO THE NINES, and pumped myself with extra confidence. He picked me up, it was great, the date was AWESOME, and when I mentioned something in passing about my not wearing makeup, he didn’t react in any way. Honestly, guys hardly notice these things.

But as if the Universe was poking fun at me, we were seated on the edge of one section, AGAINST THE MIRROR. No joke. So, I received unsolicited reminders throughout the evening like “hey girl, no make up?” It was a great challenge, dancing with those demons, telling them that they were wasting their time because I was having an awesome date with this guy that makeup would not have enhanced. My self-esteem was the same, any shyness was a result of the vulnerable moment in the conversation, and we want to see each other again.

So, what have I learnt? Makeup really and truly is optional. And if the end goal of applying makeup is to look and feel good- why not do that in the mind? The power’s all in there.

Anywho, Part 2 of Social Conditioning is coming soon, so stay tuned for more mind-power things! Yay!


Much love,
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Social Conditioning: Part 1

Part 1: Make-Up or Nah?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how things came to be: how society became the way it was, how things changed over the years and how things could be if people thought differently. So, I’ve decided to start a series about this, mostly from the perspective of being a woman. Continue reading “Social Conditioning: Part 1”

GoodNews Friday

Hello, wonderful humans! I trust you’re having an exciting Black Friday full of glorious deals 🙋🏽

In the spirit of celebration, today’s post is about all the awesome things that have happened for women around the world. What you focus on multiplies, so let’s get right into that. Continue reading “GoodNews Friday”

So What Does This Mean, Now?

There’s a pretty grim outlook on the future, on our current reality. There’s an idea that this Trump thing means that the next four years will be terrible. While there is not a single percentage of me that was rooting for him, I am aware of the fact that the Laws of the Universe are much more powerful than any human system. Alright I’ll cut to the chase:

Trump, or any president, does not have the power to create our realities, unless we believe he does

Now, I know this sounds a little outlandish, but the fact is Continue reading “So What Does This Mean, Now?”

What Trump Was Working With

So we’ve all received the devastating news about this year’s elections, and if I’m honest, the results do not surprise me. See, Trump was working with one of the most powerful Laws of the Universe: the Law of Attraction.

Have you ever heard “the things I fear come upon me” or “what you resist, persists?” Well, Trump had the whole world in fear. And that is precisely what put him where he is now. Continue reading “What Trump Was Working With”

Great Read- Rex Sikes

Once I Become Aware Now What Do I Do? – http://wp.me/p4OhpB-2sW

Mauritius and My Mind

Hello from Mauritius!

One of the perks of being the last-born, is that I get the most sponsored vacations in my life. My sister now has a disposable income, and I am so grateful that she chooses me to go along with her. We’ve always wanted to go to Mauritius (like everyone in the western world, I’m sure) and it’s finally come true!

We’re drawing to the end of our trip, and I have to share a few things about how my mind has been. I am completing my final year thesis and I’m technically graduating in about 2 months. However, there’s a lot going on at my university at the moment, and honestly, this holiday could not have come at a better time.

I wish I could say I’ve been blissfully ignoring the circumstances at university the whole time, but it hasn’t been so easy. There’s an inexplicable need to know what’s going on, even though it’s

  1. predictable
  2. not going to affect me anyway, and
  3. only going to add negativity to my mind.

Staying off Facebook and Twitter has been a challenge. I’ve recently Continue reading “Mauritius and My Mind”

On Being Right

Hello! 👋🏾

I hope you’ve all had a wonderful week. ❤

I’ve been thinking a lot about change. Duh, I know. But as an active feminist on social media, change in an LOA sense is a little difficult to grasp. Being constantly bombarded with all the terrible things that women are subjected to, and trying to draw attention to it is frustrating. So, I’m considering another approach.

I shared a link to a video in a previous post about multiple realities (here), which explains how every person experiences a different Continue reading “On Being Right”

Still alive

Hello 👋 Just peeping in to say that I am still here. My laptop’s been in repairs for a while, so I’m basically living like a cavewoman. Haha I’m kidding (sort of). 

I have many things to write and my baby should be coming back to me within 48hrs.

Much love and happy Wednesday ❤

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